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Postby Andyrew004 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 3:56 am

This isn't really a relationship type problem so I hope I'm putting this in the right section.

So it's always been my dream to sing and play in a Pop punk band, and play the songs that I wrote, and I finally have that. (I sing lead vocals and play guitar).

My drummer's cool, but my bass player...

I really want to have a band, and I don't any other bass players that sing as well as he does, so I sort of want to keep him, but sort of want him out too.

Well my bass player sings backup vocals well, and comes up with creative bass lines, but he can get really annoying after some time and comes up with really shitty song ideas.

He doesn't even really listen to any bands that we like, but he listens to older Punk bands like the clash ect.

He can usually be a pretty okay/nice dude, but he also is sometimes sort of a dick lol.


What's the best thing to do? I really want to have a band more than anything, but sometimes I can't stand the bassist, but there's no other legit bass players around.

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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby shadowred3 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 3:59 am

try to deal with it, what dose your band sound like? like if you had to choose one band tht influanced you the most
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Andyrew004 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 4:07 am

shadowred3 wrote:try to deal with it, what dose your band sound like? like if you had to choose one band tht influanced you the most


Thanks. And it sounds mostly like blink-182 during the "Take off Your Pants and Jacket" time and Sum 41's "All Killer no Filler" days.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Jeremy Kill on Fri Aug 13, 2010 4:31 am

I don't know. You'll have to weigh your options. Like, is your desire to have a band more than your desire to kick out your bass player?

How does the rest of the band get along with him? Are you all in the same boat?
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Andyrew004 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 4:39 am

I'm having a hard time making that decision =(.

There's only 3 of us in the band right now, and my drummer is a pretty quiet and patient dude so he doesn't really care so much.

I'm the "lead singer" so does that give me a right to sort of control every thing and sorta put my foot down? I don't know =\
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Jeremy Kill on Fri Aug 13, 2010 6:21 am

I'm not sure if being the lead singer makes you obligated to be the boss, though if you're the main songwriter and you founded the band, then that's different. For example, Patrick Stump was the lead singer for Fall Out Boy, but Pete Wentz was really the band's leader.

If I was in your position, I'd try and stick it out, though I'd talk it over with the drummer and try to get his opinion. I wouldn't confront the bass player just yet. I'd probably try and tolerate him and if he does something stupid, I'd make some sort of joke about it or just slide in a "Dude, that's kind of a dick move!" Hopefully pointing out things that he does that bother you will help him realize he's being a dick and can change his behavior.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Andyrew004 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 6:50 am

Jeremy Kill wrote:I'm not sure if being the lead singer makes you obligated to be the boss, though if you're the main songwriter and you founded the band, then that's different. For example, Patrick Stump was the lead singer for Fall Out Boy, but Pete Wentz was really the band's leader.

If I was in your position, I'd try and stick it out, though I'd talk it over with the drummer and try to get his opinion. I wouldn't confront the bass player just yet. I'd probably try and tolerate him and if he does something stupid, I'd make some sort of joke about it or just slide in a "Dude, that's kind of a dick move!" Hopefully pointing out things that he does that bother you will help him realize he's being a dick and can change his behavior.


Ahh I gotcha. I do write all the songs, but I founded the band with the drummer.

But that's actually a really good idea. I think I'll do it subtley like that when he's being a dick. Thanks man.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby withchappedlips on Fri Aug 13, 2010 8:12 am

Who the fuck cares? Get a second guitarist, and fuck the bass. You don't need a fucking bassist to make a band. Bass is the most pointless instrument. In a good amount of cases, you can't even hear the bass when listening to a song on normal speakers.. at least not too clearly.

I know there are a good amount of exceptions, but all I am saying is that not all music has a bass, nor does all music need a bass. Bass is also the most replaceable instrument because you don't need to be good at it to play it. You can get any random kid, shove a bass in his hands, teach him one or two lines, and he'll be able to play something on the instrument (See: Wentz, Pete).

I'm sure a lot of people will disagree with me, but it's so true. A song with good guitar parts can make up for any lack of bass.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby FuckT41182 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 9:27 am

Kyle...he said they have 3 members ...it's like Blink 182 ...I'll write Mark to leave the band cause bass is needless in the band of three guys...
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby billyspleen88 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 6:56 pm

i'd say try to talk to him about it. you dont wanna be in a band with someone you hate. your bandmates are like your family so try to work it out if it doesnt work out just tell him you dont wanna be in the band anymore and kick him out. then you can write a song about him like sum 41 (no brains) and blink 182 (man overboard) did.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Laxman 41 on Fri Aug 13, 2010 9:15 pm

A bass is probably one of the most important instruments. In jazz you don't even need a drummer, just a bassist to keep time. Everybody has there differences, he probably has some stuff he doesn't like about you. But if your'e really committed to the band you will keep him.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Andyrew004 on Sat Aug 14, 2010 12:26 am

Thanks everyone. I appreciate all your input. I think I've figured it all out now for the most part :glad:
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby CertainShadeOfAdam. on Sun Aug 15, 2010 8:42 am

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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby withchappedlips on Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:46 am

FuckT41182 wrote:Kyle...he said they have 3 members ...it's like Blink 182 ...I'll write Mark to leave the band cause bass is needless in the band of three guys...

Have you listened to a band called I Set My Friends On Fire? I saw them live. All they had in their band was a guitarist, a drummer, and a vocalist. They had samples of course, but they do not use a bassist anymore because the bassist they used to have in the band a long while ago died.

Litterally... they had a guy shredding on guitar, and a drummer... they had the other guy raping a microphone. Watch music videos... they have just two instruments going on at their shows.

Bass is needless in blink-182. I understand people wouldn't agree because it's a crazy thing to say, but if they added a synthy thing to their songs, or just some kind of other musical effect, they wouldn't have needed a bass at all. I think people overestimate how much bass is even noticed in music.

Blink's sound would be a lot different, but they could have managed is Mark played a normal guitar, or if he played a piano or synths or whatever...

PLUS, one major thing here... we're in a time where you can create musical tracks on a computer, without ANY real instrument... if this "band" wanted to sound good with just two members, they could easily do it by putting in samples live, and just putting together tracks with the members recording things at different times, or using garage band / pro tools / etc to actually put together the tracks.

It's really not that hard to go without a bass. A guitar is probably the one instrument that you'd be hard pressed to have in a rock band... bass is replaceable.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Jake on Sun Aug 15, 2010 10:32 am

Doctor Babe. wrote:I think people overestimate how much bass is even noticed in music.

Unfortunatly, you've fallen into the same gay mindset as just about every other clueless n00b.
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby FuckT41182 on Sun Aug 15, 2010 11:09 am

but ...the reason why I like Sum 41 so much is ...that they still can play instruments and does not have to use some fucking computer ...
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Memoire on Sun Aug 15, 2010 6:48 pm

i agree with doctor babe..i dont like bass :D..but after all a bass belongs to a punkrock band and it can be a very important thing in a band,too.

So back to topic..what does ur drummer think about him?if he doesnt like him,too,kick him.you can find another bass sooner or later.u shouldt use him and pretend that u like him just because hes a good musician.

But if ur band is really as good as u mentioned..accept the fact that hes a moron..besides i like the word "moron" :D

its ur decision..can u show us a song of ur band?
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Dylan on Sun Aug 15, 2010 8:01 pm

Doctor Babe. wrote:Bass is also the most replaceable instrument because you don't need to be good at it to play it. You can get any random kid, shove a bass in his hands, teach him one or two lines, and he'll be able to play something on the instrument (See: Wentz, Pete).


i disagree 100% with the first part, but i see where you're coming from with the second part. it takes some time to be decent at playing bass, but if you really love it bass can do great things in music. you need just as much knowledge of music to play bass as you do guitar.

including wentz, there are alot of half-assed bass players who are replaceable, including the bands who you listen to, im assuming thats why you feel this way. but you can't replace the bassists in bands like Rush, Guns N Roses, Protest the Hero, Rise Against, Anti-Flag (among many many more), with "any random kid".
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Re: Not sure what to do

Postby Andyrew004 on Wed Aug 18, 2010 7:00 am

Memoire wrote:i agree with doctor babe..i dont like bass :D..but after all a bass belongs to a punkrock band and it can be a very important thing in a band,too.

So back to topic..what does ur drummer think about him?if he doesnt like him,too,kick him.you can find another bass sooner or later.u shouldt use him and pretend that u like him just because hes a good musician.

But if ur band is really as good as u mentioned..accept the fact that hes a moron..besides i like the word "moron" :D

its ur decision..can u show us a song of ur band?


Hm this song called "Senioritis" is a pretty good example of how most of my music sounds. (As you can see in the video I failed and forgot to move my footswitch next to my mic stand lol)
http://www.youtube.com/game21band#p/u/3/mb6JDIevXFc

since we're pretty new we don't have much recorded but yeahh.

I've got a lot of mixed feelings on this. He's been cooperating more and more lately, and my drummer says he can deal with him just so we can have a bass player lol. I think my bassist has ADHD as well which isn't very helpful in certain situations lol.

I'm also trying to find another guitarist as well so I can focus more on singing
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